Monday, November 30, 2009
Out With Victimhood, In with Congnizance
This One Love Nugget comes to us from a sister releasing victimization."
"Victimhood, one big trip we all decided to take, Earth included. Now we have the opportunity to release that which no longer serves our growth and expansion. Could you give some nuggets regarding this release in the body and in the moment we find ourselves choosing to feel like a victim?"
Great question. With honor and respect to all beings who suffer war, genocide, natural disasters and more, I am humble in the face of Karmic and Kosmic forces. On one level Victimhood is an attitude, consciously or unconsciously chosen. Dreadful, unspeakable things have happened to people who still somehow cultivate the ability to keep their hearts open and embrace their experience as their opportunity. Not all blessings feel blissful.
My dear teacher, Vanessa says "Life is not happening TO us, it is happening FOR us." I love how that flips the Victim mentality immediately. If everything is happening for our greatest good, our evolution, then turning to embrace it as gift serves the whole. This includes the Earth's journey, and all of us on it as the living body and consciousness of the Earth itself. This fits into the Jungian and Aboriginal ideas, that we are all dreaming one dream, and that every aspect of the dream is an aspect of ourselves. So, for starters let's stop victimizing ourselves on all levels. Let's command our sacred space-be peace, be love, be free. Perhaps easier said than done...maybe not. Another beloved mentor, River, always reminds me "you are at cause". At every moment, we have the opportunity to choose, Source our experience and command our sacred space-even if that starts with our Inner Space, no matter what the external circumstances.
As for shifting out of victimization tendencies, be on the look out for red flags that give it away. Mine include a pursing of the lips, furrowing of my brow, tightening my jaw, and a familiar emotional energy and mental configuration that go along with it. I utilize these cues and say to myself, "You are doing that thing!" Then, aware, I can make a choice to shift my inner reality, which often changes my experience of the outer one. This goes along with a willingness to rewire and reeducate myself and others, including making new agreements about how I roll.
Here's an interesting word play. We all know that a synonym for victim is martyr, but so is sufferer, babe in the woods and dupe. And did you know that the antonym to dupe is Cognizant? I love that. Cognizant is defined as aware, knowing, awake. What a perfect antidote to victimization, Cognizance. WAKE UP the moment you become aware of running a victim story about yourself or another and flip it into a choosing point, an empowerment (Sourcing your power). And last but not least, with it all, may we ride the currents of grace and gratitude.
Thanks so much for your poignant question!